
Sometimes the tenants of Buddhism pop up in unexpected circumstances, most likely unknown to the persons involved. Here is a little story I was recently told.
A businesswoman with a successful career decided one day to stop working and dedicate her life fully to her two children. She wanted to be the perfect mom. She gave her best and labored hard every day, showering her children with love and care. Until one fine day, when she couldn’t ignore the fact anymore, that her unruly and wild children drove her crazy. She sat at home, lacking motivation, asking herself why she was doing all that. The answer hit her in the face: she didn’t care anymore. It was all the same to her. She had a burn-out.
Shortly after she admitted herself to a facility specialized in burn-outs and started with therapy. Slowly she recovered and started wondering, what she should do now. She knew that setting high goals would lead her directly back into the facility again. She wouldn’t want to go into her old job again. So she decided to do whatever she wanted to do, without purpose. At the same time she wondered how her experience could help other people. One thing led to another and she nowadays talks to people about ‘burn-outs’ and depressions, giving courses at big banks. Her problem became her business, her new meaning in life.
She discovered the core tenant of Buddhism: Mushotoku; doing something without aim, for no gain, without desire. Just doing. She learned that giving without wanting something in return made her whole again.
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